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Be the one.

December 29, 2020February 20, 2020 by Zero Dean

Ideally, we could all go through life without the need for any support other than our own. But the fact is, having the support of — and being encouraged by — just one person can make even extreme challenges much easier to bear.

Be that one person for as many people as possible.

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Judge less. Encourage more.

December 26, 2020February 20, 2020 by Zero Dean

Just because people aren’t doing as well as you could — or as well as you wish they would — doesn’t mean they aren’t doing the best they can given their life & circumstances.

Judge less. Encourage more. And lead by example.

Problem-finding as a sport

January 21, 2020 by Zero Dean

Some treat problem-finding like it’s a sport to win. But finding & highlighting problems is easy. Complaining is easy. Mocking & belittling people and/or their efforts is easy.

What isn’t as easy? Being solution-oriented instead of problem-focused & leading by example — & with love.

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A difference of opinion

January 21, 2020January 19, 2020 by Zero Dean

Reminder:

A difference of opinion doesn’t mean someone is against you & it doesn’t mean you can’t be friends — or at least get along.

A respectful disagreement is far more interesting & leads to far more growth than only associating with those who see things exactly as you.

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Reducing bad behavior

January 20, 2020January 16, 2020 by Zero Dean

If you wish to reduce bad behavior, it has to start with you, not the person who you think is behaving badly.

Responding disrespectfully to someone who is acting poorly just leaves the world with another badly behaving person. You must set the example you want to see.

Acting badly because someone else is acting badly is not an excuse to act badly. You are responsible for your behavior no matter what other people are doing.

Strive to set an example you will be proud of no matter how you are feeling and no matter who sees it.

People in groups

January 20, 2020January 15, 2020 by Zero Dean

People in groups are notoriously stupid – not because any individual is, but because people blindly trust & follow group consensus instead of their own common sense.

This is proven by social media every second and you are not immune.

Of course – groups of people can yield amazing things. But whether the outcome/output of a group is considered positive or negative or successful (or not), it has little to do with whether group dynamics are at play or not. They are an incredibly powerful force & few are immune.

Confusing authenticity with conformity

January 8, 2020January 8, 2020 by Zero Dean

Too many people say they want people to be themselves while simultaneously criticizing those who are.

It should go without saying, but “being authentic” does not translate to “conform to what your idea of normal is”.

Don’t say you desire authenticity from people and then criticize them for being themselves or fault them for failing to cater to what your idea of normal is.

Mockery vs encouragement

January 8, 2020January 6, 2020 by Zero Dean

If you see someone putting in a genuine effort to do their best — even if what they’re doing falls short of your standards — consider giving them honest encouragement.

Laughing at or mocking people who are doing their best says a lot about a person (and it ain’t good).

Be kind.

If you can help ease someone’s burden or do something that makes a person’s day better, please don’t hesitate.

Patience. Smiles. Laughter. Compassion. Meaningful connections. Touch a life. Show what it means to be a good human.

Not just today. Every day. That’s kindness.

Keep value in motion

January 21, 2020January 1, 2020 by Zero Dean

Let this be the year that if you get value from something you got for free, you keep that value in motion by paying it forward.

Acknowledge
Appreciate
Share
Review
Promote
Discuss
Collaborate

Always give energy to the things you want to see more of.

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Seek to exchange value, not just take it

Superficial vs substance

December 31, 2020December 31, 2019 by Zero Dean

There will always be people who see the value in your contributions to the world and who genuinely appreciate you for what you’ve done and the kind of person you are.

But by that same token, there will always be those who ignore substance and, instead, judge you based on something superficial, like what you own or how you transport yourself from one location to another.

Always keep in mind that it is not your job to convince people to see substance when all they want to look at is the superficial.

Be the best you that you can be and you will naturally attract those who see value in who you are and what you offer. Don’t waste time trying to get people who overly value superficial things to see your worth. If they ever do, it wont be because you convinced them to.

Originally published on: Dec 31, 2019

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