Find what you love

If someone creates content — whether it’s music, videos, art, comics, or words — and you don’t like it, don’t understand it, or don’t find any value in it, maybe it wasn’t meant for you.

There are over 7.5 billion people on the planet — all with different preferences, opinions & levels of understanding — not everything anyone creates is intended for every single person on the planet.

It is perfectly possible to go in search of what you love in life without disparaging, mocking, or criticizing all the things you discover on your journey that you don’t.

Find what you love

Find what you love

Problem-finding as a sport

Some treat problem-finding like it’s a sport to win. But finding & highlighting problems is easy. Complaining is easy. Mocking & belittling people and/or their efforts is easy.

What isn’t as easy? Being solution-oriented instead of problem-focused & leading by example — & with love.

Problem-finding as a sport

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A difference of opinion

Reminder:

A difference of opinion doesn’t mean someone is against you & it doesn’t mean you can’t be friends — or at least get along.

A respectful disagreement is far more interesting & leads to far more growth than only associating with those who see things exactly as you.

A difference of opinion

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Reducing bad behavior

If you wish to reduce bad behavior, it has to start with you, not the person who you think is behaving badly.

Responding disrespectfully to someone who is acting poorly just leaves the world with another badly behaving person. You must set the example you want to see.

Acting badly because someone else is acting badly is not an excuse to act badly. You are responsible for your behavior no matter what other people are doing.

Strive to set an example you will be proud of no matter how you are feeling and no matter who sees it.

Reducing bad behavior

Reducing bad behavior

The opposite of bravery

The opposite of bravery

The world runs rampant with people afraid to openly appreciate what they like, afraid to speak the truth, afraid of criticism, afraid of discomfort, afraid to voice their opinion, afraid of other people’s opinions, afraid of making mistakes, afraid of being wrong, afraid to be themselves, afraid to give a damn, afraid of change, afraid of independent thinking, afraid of being alone, afraid of going after what they want…

What’s the opposite of bravery again?

Have you ever taken the time to consider how much of your life is dictated by the actions you take to avoid the things you’re afraid of?

Be very careful of living a life spent running from your fears rather than working towards what you want.

By leading your life with less regard to your fears and more regard to what you want and the kind of person you truly want to be, you’re far more likely to be proud of the life you live than you will be by constantly catering to fear.

Be brave.

The opposite of bravery

Caring is cool

Caring is cool

Let 2020 begin a decade where we do away with glorifying “zero f*cks” and IDGAF culture.

Lack of caring isn’t cool, it isn’t brave, and it certainly isn’t strong. You know what’s cool? Being brave enough & strong enough to care about things without giving the feedback you get a direct line to your ego.

Feedback from life experience – especially criticism – is an absolutely essential part of personal growth. You can care about what people think without letting it impact your sense of self-worth – even when someone insults you.

Not all of the feedback you get from others is about you. In fact, in many cases, negative feedback has more to do with the person giving it than the person it’s intended for. But if you’re not brave or strong enough to consider it, you’ll never know – and you’ll never grow from it either.

The worst thing about negative feedback is when it’s true. Which is also the best thing about it, because it provides information one can grow from.

When negative feedback is false, misinformed, or isn’t applicable, then there’s no point in feeling bad about it for precisely these reasons.

I’ve been saying it since 2013, it isn’t people who don’t care that make a positive difference in the world – it’s people who do. Be proud of being someone who does.

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