The world runs rampant with people afraid to openly appreciate what they like, afraid to speak the truth, afraid of criticism, afraid of discomfort, afraid to voice their opinion, afraid of other people’s opinions, afraid of making mistakes, afraid of being wrong, afraid to be themselves, afraid to give a damn, afraid of change, afraid of independent thinking, afraid of being alone, afraid of going after what they want…
What’s the opposite of bravery again?
Have you ever taken the time to consider how much of your life is dictated by the actions you take to avoid the things you’re afraid of?
Be very careful of living a life spent running from your fears rather than working towards what you want.
By leading your life with less regard to your fears and more regard to what you want and the kind of person you truly want to be, you’re far more likely to be proud of the life you live than you will be by constantly catering to fear.
If your present life is hard, it’s ok – it isn’t something to beat yourself up about. Beating yourself up over the way things are will only serve to slow you down and make your journey more difficult than it needs to be.
If you’re going to dwell on anything, dwelling on steps you can take to further push your life in the direction you want to go is far more beneficial than beating yourself up over where you are.
Always remember that we learn far more when we struggle than we do when life fails to challenge us.
Whatever it is you’re dealing with now will make you both stronger and wiser if you look for the lessons that can be learned from the experiences you’re having – not because they are easy, but because they are hard. And these are lessons that you will be able to carry with you into the parts of your life that are better because you leaned them.
While being uncomfortable isn’t a joyful experience for almost anyone, dealing with discomfort is an absolutely essential part of life because it is a catalyst for personal growth.
It is entirely possible for something that brings you discomfort at one time in your life to be a source of great joy in another. For example, facing fears and pushing one’s self to try new things is frequently a turning point in many people’s lives. By confronting things that make them uncomfortable, many people learn to not just overcome the discomfort associated with those things, they can actually draw pleasure from them as well.
Think of the person with a fear of heights who takes up skydiving. Or the person with a fear of deep water learning to SCUBA dive.
Just because something doesn’t bring you joy doesn’t mean that you should disregard it. The fact is, even the less joyful aspects of our lives are important because they provide contrast and personal growth.
Being liked by everyone in life is not only unnecessary, it’s impossible. One of the shortest paths to mediocrity is living a life bound by the constraints of other people’s expectations. You are not here to be what people expect you to be.
Whenever life presents you with a challenge, remind yourself,” There is a lesson in this.” and realize that it will likely not become evident until after the experience has passed. Because most of life’s lessons are not labeled as lessons until one has learned what they have to teach.
Growth & Discomfort: Getting outside of your comfort zone
Dealing with discomfort, fear, and situations we don’t want be in — or situations that we are completely unfamiliar with — is an absolutely essential part of growth.
Who we are is a result of everything we’ve had to overcome in life and the attitude we chose to adopt during – or as a result of – challenges we’ve had to face.
You can choose to look at difficulties as disruptive and something to dread – or you can look at them as opportunities for growth and self-improvement. Because difficulties & discomfort are simply one side of a coin while opportunities for growth are the other.
You can’t have growth without some degree of discomfort.
We may not be able to choose or even like the challenges that life throws our way, but we can always choose our attitude towards them.