Pretending to be happy isn’t happiness

Happiness is not a choice. It is not a switch you can flip. It is not the result of only having & appreciating positive experiences.

Happiness is the result of having a healthy attitude that allows one to find value in all life experiences, not just the “good” ones.

Pretending to be happy isn’t happiness – and it isn’t healthy. While you may fool some, you won’t fool the one person that it matters to most – yourself. It’s better to admit you’re not happy & work towards a solution than pretend you’re happy and do nothing.

It isn’t likely that lasting happiness will come from the getting of things, but rather from the satisfaction one gets from doing them – and an attitude that allows one to find value in the journey of life & not just a particular destination along the way.

You can be satisfied in your work, fulfilled by your goals (whether you ultimately achieve them or not), comforted by your relationships, pleased with your journey, and grateful for your life without being #happy 100% of the time.

And that’s OK. That’s life.

Pretending to be happy isn't happiness

Pretending to be happy isn't happiness

Pretending to be happy isn't happiness

Pretending to be happy isn't happiness

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A reminder for tough times

A reminder for tough times

If you’re currently going through a difficult time, I want to remind you of something:

You are stronger than you feel.
You are capable of getting through this.
And you will.

Stop beating yourself up and focus on the positive actions you can take and push forward.

You’ve got this.

 

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When you are feeling weak

When you are feeling weak

When you are feeling weak, always take a moment to remind yourself that you are a survivor of every hardship you’ve ever faced in life. You’ve consistently overcome the worst that life has thrown your way, year after year after year.

No one feels strong 100% of the time. Even the people you look up to and respect most in the world have been knocked down, felt unwell, or needed time to just breathe.

Life can be hard – resist the urge to beat yourself up further when it is. It’s ok to not be ok. Give yourself the time & mental space necessary to get better by refusing to focus on things that make you feel worse.

You will overcome whatever you are dealing with now, as you have with everything you’ve previously faced. This is but a very small part of your life. In the grand scheme of things, you’re doing ok. Keep going.

When you are feeling weak

If you know you need to change your life for the better…

If you know you need to change your life for the better...

Unless you’ve specifically hired someone in your life to do it, it’s not someone else’s job to look out for you. It’s not someone else’s job to protect you from things that may do you harm. It’s not someone else’s job to keep you healthy. It’s not someone else’s job to make sure you do everything you want to do in life. These things are your responsibility.

If you’ve veered off course in life or you’re doing things you know are bad for you, it’s up to you to change that.

The only person stopping you from bettering yourself is you.

If you know you need to change your life for the better, focus on what you can do to change it and start today.

 

You can get through this

You can get through this

Always keep in mind that no matter what you’re dealing with now, now is not forever. Repeat that. Now is not forever. Your life will change. Your feelings will change. Your attitude will change. And your circumstances will change.

Whatever you are dealing with now, hang in there and do whatever is necessary to manage this minute, this hour, or this day in as healthy & productive a way as possible and you will see that things will change.

Now is not forever – now is just a passing moment in your life. You can get through this.

You can get through this