Telling people what you plan to do

Telling people what you plan to do

Reminder:

You don’t have to tell people what you plan to do. You can just do it — or not do it. Especially if you have a habit of contradicting yourself.

The same applies to making emotionally triggered ultimatums that may not be adhered to when you’ve calmed down.

Be the one.

Ideally, we could all go through life without the need for any support other than our own. But the fact is, having the support of — and being encouraged by — just one person can make even extreme challenges much easier to bear.

Be that one person for as many people as possible.

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Be the one.

Problem-finding as a sport

Some treat problem-finding like it’s a sport to win. But finding & highlighting problems is easy. Complaining is easy. Mocking & belittling people and/or their efforts is easy.

What isn’t as easy? Being solution-oriented instead of problem-focused & leading by example — & with love.

Problem-finding as a sport

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A difference of opinion

Reminder:

A difference of opinion doesn’t mean someone is against you & it doesn’t mean you can’t be friends — or at least get along.

A respectful disagreement is far more interesting & leads to far more growth than only associating with those who see things exactly as you.

A difference of opinion

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Reducing bad behavior

If you wish to reduce bad behavior, it has to start with you, not the person who you think is behaving badly.

Responding disrespectfully to someone who is acting poorly just leaves the world with another badly behaving person. You must set the example you want to see.

Acting badly because someone else is acting badly is not an excuse to act badly. You are responsible for your behavior no matter what other people are doing.

Strive to set an example you will be proud of no matter how you are feeling and no matter who sees it.

Reducing bad behavior

Reducing bad behavior

People in groups

People in groups are notoriously stupid – not because any individual is, but because people blindly trust & follow group consensus instead of their own common sense.

This is proven by social media every second and you are not immune.

Of course – groups of people can yield amazing things. But whether the outcome/output of a group is considered positive or negative or successful (or not), it has little to do with whether group dynamics are at play or not. They are an incredibly powerful force & few are immune.

People in groups

Confusing authenticity with conformity

Too many people say they want people to be themselves while simultaneously criticizing those who are.

It should go without saying, but “being authentic” does not translate to “conform to what your idea of normal is”.

Don’t say you desire authenticity from people and then criticize them for being themselves or fault them for failing to cater to what your idea of normal is.

Confusing authenticity with conformity

Confusing authenticity with conformity