Be the one.

Ideally, we could all go through life without the need for any support other than our own. But the fact is, having the support of — and being encouraged by — just one person can make even extreme challenges much easier to bear.

Be that one person for as many people as possible.

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Be the one.

Problem-finding as a sport

Some treat problem-finding like it’s a sport to win. But finding & highlighting problems is easy. Complaining is easy. Mocking & belittling people and/or their efforts is easy.

What isn’t as easy? Being solution-oriented instead of problem-focused & leading by example — & with love.

Problem-finding as a sport

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A difference of opinion

Reminder:

A difference of opinion doesn’t mean someone is against you & it doesn’t mean you can’t be friends — or at least get along.

A respectful disagreement is far more interesting & leads to far more growth than only associating with those who see things exactly as you.

A difference of opinion

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Reducing bad behavior

If you wish to reduce bad behavior, it has to start with you, not the person who you think is behaving badly.

Responding disrespectfully to someone who is acting poorly just leaves the world with another badly behaving person. You must set the example you want to see.

Acting badly because someone else is acting badly is not an excuse to act badly. You are responsible for your behavior no matter what other people are doing.

Strive to set an example you will be proud of no matter how you are feeling and no matter who sees it.

Reducing bad behavior

Reducing bad behavior

People in groups

People in groups are notoriously stupid – not because any individual is, but because people blindly trust & follow group consensus instead of their own common sense.

This is proven by social media every second and you are not immune.

Of course – groups of people can yield amazing things. But whether the outcome/output of a group is considered positive or negative or successful (or not), it has little to do with whether group dynamics are at play or not. They are an incredibly powerful force & few are immune.

People in groups

Confusing authenticity with conformity

Too many people say they want people to be themselves while simultaneously criticizing those who are.

It should go without saying, but “being authentic” does not translate to “conform to what your idea of normal is”.

Don’t say you desire authenticity from people and then criticize them for being themselves or fault them for failing to cater to what your idea of normal is.

Confusing authenticity with conformity

Confusing authenticity with conformity

Mockery vs encouragement

Mockery vs encouragement

If you see someone putting in a genuine effort to do their best — even if what they’re doing falls short of your standards — consider giving them honest encouragement.

Laughing at or mocking people who are doing their best says a lot about a person (and it ain’t good).

Be kind.


Mockery vs encouragement

If you can help ease someone’s burden or do something that makes a person’s day better, please don’t hesitate.

Patience. Smiles. Laughter. Compassion. Meaningful connections. Touch a life. Show what it means to be a good human.

Not just today. Every day. That’s kindness.

Superficial vs substance

Superficial vs substance

There will always be people who see the value in your contributions to the world and who genuinely appreciate you for what you’ve done and the kind of person you are.

But by that same token, there will always be those who ignore substance and, instead, judge you based on something superficial, like what you own or how you transport yourself from one location to another.

Always keep in mind that it is not your job to convince people to see substance when all they want to look at is the superficial.

Be the best you that you can be and you will naturally attract those who see value in who you are and what you offer. Don’t waste time trying to get people who overly value superficial things to see your worth. If they ever do, it wont be because you convinced them to.