“It’s just a joke”

Allowing yourself to be the subject of a joke every now and then can show that you don’t take things too seriously. Allowing yourself to become the brunt of jokes regularly can show you don’t take things seriously enough.

Every time you allow someone to disrespect you — even if it’s “just a joke” — you give them permission to do it again.

If you want respect, it’s important to set boundaries.

Friendly ribbing between genuine friends can be a sign of trust and affection, but being frequently showcased as a joke to an audience — particularly people who don’t know you

"It's just a joke" that well — is something else.

When is enough enough? When people are laughing and you’re not one of them.

 

The confidence, happiness & success show

If you really love yourself, you don’t have to make a show of how much you love yourself. This also applies to confidence, success & happiness.

Some of the most insecure people on the planet are standing in a spotlight hoping you won’t notice that they’re the one holding it.

When what you are & how you feel is genuine, you don’t have to make a show of it because authenticity is effortless and is evident by how you act & carry yourself.

When you truly are what you are, how you act & your way of being is an effortless extension of the truth.

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The confidence, happiness & success show

The confidence, happiness & success show

Staying true to you

People who don’t know you will often — and innocently — view and treat you like someone you’re not. It’s not your responsibility to conform to their vision. Having integrity means staying true to you, not conforming to other people’s expectations because it keeps them comfortable.

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Staying true to you

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

If you believe in yourself & what you do, how is that confidence reflected in your behavior?

If your confidence is dependent on the reception you get rather your belief in what you do, you will always be at the mercy of others.

If you don’t have an unshakeable belief in what you do or what you’re trying to accomplish, you’re gonna have a really hard time getting other people to.

Whether people cheer you or boo you, your confidence in yourself should not be dictated by the reception you get.

While there are markers that society uses to measure success, success is not a standard.

Just because a crowd may consider a person successful (or not) doesn’t mean that person conforms to their standard.

Success is up to the individual to define in whatever way they choose.

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

The opposite of bravery

The opposite of bravery

The world runs rampant with people afraid to openly appreciate what they like, afraid to speak the truth, afraid of criticism, afraid of discomfort, afraid to voice their opinion, afraid of other people’s opinions, afraid of making mistakes, afraid of being wrong, afraid to be themselves, afraid to give a damn, afraid of change, afraid of independent thinking, afraid of being alone, afraid of going after what they want…

What’s the opposite of bravery again?

Have you ever taken the time to consider how much of your life is dictated by the actions you take to avoid the things you’re afraid of?

Be very careful of living a life spent running from your fears rather than working towards what you want.

By leading your life with less regard to your fears and more regard to what you want and the kind of person you truly want to be, you’re far more likely to be proud of the life you live than you will be by constantly catering to fear.

Be brave.

The opposite of bravery

Caring is cool

Caring is cool

Let 2020 begin a decade where we do away with glorifying “zero f*cks” and IDGAF culture.

Lack of caring isn’t cool, it isn’t brave, and it certainly isn’t strong. You know what’s cool? Being brave enough & strong enough to care about things without giving the feedback you get a direct line to your ego.

Feedback from life experience – especially criticism – is an absolutely essential part of personal growth. You can care about what people think without letting it impact your sense of self-worth – even when someone insults you.

Not all of the feedback you get from others is about you. In fact, in many cases, negative feedback has more to do with the person giving it than the person it’s intended for. But if you’re not brave or strong enough to consider it, you’ll never know – and you’ll never grow from it either.

The worst thing about negative feedback is when it’s true. Which is also the best thing about it, because it provides information one can grow from.

When negative feedback is false, misinformed, or isn’t applicable, then there’s no point in feeling bad about it for precisely these reasons.

I’ve been saying it since 2013, it isn’t people who don’t care that make a positive difference in the world – it’s people who do. Be proud of being someone who does.

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There’s no one way

There's no one way

There’s no one way to reach people that is both effective and makes everyone happy. There’s no one way to teach a lesson. There’s no one way to try to make a positive difference in someone’s life.

What one person finds annoying, preachy, or heavy-handed, another is thankful for. What one person considers common sense, another is contemplating for the first time.

Just because some people don’t appreciate your efforts doesn’t diminish the fact that others do.

Just because your attempts at making a positive difference in the world are not appreciated by everyone doesn’t mean that you should stop trying.

Superficial vs substance

Superficial vs substance

There will always be people who see the value in your contributions to the world and who genuinely appreciate you for what you’ve done and the kind of person you are.

But by that same token, there will always be those who ignore substance and, instead, judge you based on something superficial, like what you own or how you transport yourself from one location to another.

Always keep in mind that it is not your job to convince people to see substance when all they want to look at is the superficial.

Be the best you that you can be and you will naturally attract those who see value in who you are and what you offer. Don’t waste time trying to get people who overly value superficial things to see your worth. If they ever do, it wont be because you convinced them to.