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Light your own fire

February 3, 2021May 31, 2019 by Zero Dean

When one’s motivation is dependent on external sources, the moment those sources are absent is the moment one’s motivation begins to fade. This is because motivation is a state of mind.

And if a particular state of one’s mind is dependent on the availability of things it doesn’t always have control over, it can be difficult to attain the state of mind associated with those things when they’re unavailable.

This is why it’s important to learn how to develop the mental discipline necessary to be one’s own source of motivation. When one is able to motivate themselves, they light a kind of fire that can burn indefinitely.

Originally Published on: Apr 29, 2015 @ 09:05

You are not what other people say about you

December 31, 2019May 23, 2019 by Zero Dean

You are not what other people say about you. And you are not other people’s opinions of you unless you choose to accept them. You don’t have to let the stories that other people tell about you become your own.

It’s your life and you can choose to write your life story any way you wish, but to do so, you must make the decision to not to let other people write your story for you.

You are who you choose to be.

Excerpt from a post originally published: Oct 24, 2011 @ 16:13

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Where does confidence come from?

May 17, 2019 by Zero Dean

Where does confidence come from?

Look in the mirror.

Perception and Rejection

May 17, 2019 by Zero Dean

One person may look at something and see one thing. Another may look at the same thing and see something else. It’s not the thing that’s different, it’s the perception of the person looking at it.

Your creativity, originality, genius and the value that you offer won’t always be recognized or appreciated for what it is. Just because some people fail to see the value in what you have to offer doesn’t mean you should stop offering it.

Criticism is common

May 15, 2019 by Zero Dean

Criticism is common.

People who don’t let it adversely affect them are not.

Be uncommon.

If you don’t want to be the type of person who lets criticism impact their life in a significant way, don’t be.

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Saved by criticism

May 15, 2019 by Zero Dean

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.” — Norman Vincent Peale

Be confident enough in yourself to listen to criticism and explore views you don’t necessarily agree with — because those who always agree with you will rarely push you to improve as much as those who don’t.

“A wise person knows that there is something to be learned from everyone.” — Unknown

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Originally Published on: Feb 16, 2016 @ 11:49

Self-confidence is a byproduct of a stable sense of self-worth.

May 7, 2019 by Zero Dean

Self-confidence is a byproduct of a stable sense of self-worth.

A stable sense of self-worth is a byproduct of self-acceptance.

If you wish to be more self-confident, learn to accept yourself as you are.

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Originally Published on: Oct 1, 2015 @ 06:33

No matter what you do

December 31, 2019April 25, 2019 by Zero Dean

No matter what you’re doing or how well you’re doing it, there will nearly always be someone who thinks that you’re not doing it right, you’re not doing it well, someone else is already doing it, or someone else could do it better. That’s life. Keep going.

Resist the urge to always explain yourself

December 31, 2019April 25, 2019 by Zero Dean

The fact is – for any number of reasons that are often beyond our control – people don’t always see us in the same way we see ourselves.

While it’s natural to care about how you are perceived, it is an exercise in futility to try to explain yourself or justify your actions to everyone who doesn’t get you. Not only is this often a waste of time, it will likely make you seem insecure on top of everything else.

People will often draw conclusions about others based on what they imagine or guess to be true rather than what actually is. They may even presume to know what motivates a person or declare with confidence that they know why that person took a specific course of action. When, in fact, these conclusions can paint a picture that doesn’t at all reflect reality. And that’s OK.

It is perfectly acceptable to ignore the fact that other people have the wrong impression of you. Because, with few exceptions, what other people think about you will have absolutely no impact on your life unless you choose to let it.

When you truly know who you are, it won’t matter so much that other people don’t. What matters is focusing on who you want to be and what you wish to accomplish with your life regardless of those who don’t get you, what you’re doing, or what you wish to do.

It is not your job

December 31, 2019April 25, 2019 by Zero Dean

If someone who doesn’t know you has an inaccurate perception of who you are, it is not your job to correct them.

In some situations, explaining yourself may be helpful, but the occasions when people who could not care less about you make misinformed, misguided, or snap judgements about you are rarely those times.

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