Reducing bad behavior

If you wish to reduce bad behavior, it has to start with you, not the person who you think is behaving badly.

Responding disrespectfully to someone who is acting poorly just leaves the world with another badly behaving person. You must set the example you want to see.

Acting badly because someone else is acting badly is not an excuse to act badly. You are responsible for your behavior no matter what other people are doing.

Strive to set an example you will be proud of no matter how you are feeling and no matter who sees it.

Reducing bad behavior

Reducing bad behavior

Reducing bad behavior

People in groups

People in groups are notoriously stupid – not because any individual is, but because people blindly trust & follow group consensus instead of their own common sense.

This is proven by social media every second and you are not immune.

Of course – groups of people can yield amazing things. But whether the outcome/output of a group is considered positive or negative or successful (or not), it has little to do with whether group dynamics are at play or not. They are an incredibly powerful force & few are immune.

People in groups

People in groups

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

If you believe in yourself & what you do, how is that confidence reflected in your behavior?

If your confidence is dependent on the reception you get rather your belief in what you do, you will always be at the mercy of others.

If you don’t have an unshakeable belief in what you do or what you’re trying to accomplish, you’re gonna have a really hard time getting other people to.

Whether people cheer you or boo you, your confidence in yourself should not be dictated by the reception you get.

While there are markers that society uses to measure success, success is not a standard.

Just because a crowd may consider a person successful (or not) doesn’t mean that person conforms to their standard.

Success is up to the individual to define in whatever way they choose.

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

Confidence attracts. Insecurity repels.

Pretending to be happy isn’t happiness

Happiness is not a choice. It is not a switch you can flip. It is not the result of only having & appreciating positive experiences.

Happiness is the result of having a healthy attitude that allows one to find value in all life experiences, not just the “good” ones.

Pretending to be happy isn’t happiness – and it isn’t healthy. While you may fool some, you won’t fool the one person that it matters to most – yourself. It’s better to admit you’re not happy & work towards a solution than pretend you’re happy and do nothing.

It isn’t likely that lasting happiness will come from the getting of things, but rather from the satisfaction one gets from doing them – and an attitude that allows one to find value in the journey of life & not just a particular destination along the way.

You can be satisfied in your work, fulfilled by your goals (whether you ultimately achieve them or not), comforted by your relationships, pleased with your journey, and grateful for your life without being #happy 100% of the time.

And that’s OK. That’s life.

Pretending to be happy isn't happiness

Pretending to be happy isn't happiness

Pretending to be happy isn't happiness

Pretending to be happy isn't happiness

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Pretending to be happy isn't happiness

Confusing authenticity with conformity

Too many people say they want people to be themselves while simultaneously criticizing those who are.

It should go without saying, but “being authentic” does not translate to “conform to what your idea of normal is”.

Don’t say you desire authenticity from people and then criticize them for being themselves or fault them for failing to cater to what your idea of normal is.

Confusing authenticity with conformity

Confusing authenticity with conformity

Confusing authenticity with conformity

Mockery vs encouragement

Mockery vs encouragement

If you see someone putting in a genuine effort to do their best — even if what they’re doing falls short of your standards — consider giving them honest encouragement.

Laughing at or mocking people who are doing their best says a lot about a person (and it ain’t good).

Be kind.


Mockery vs encouragement

If you can help ease someone’s burden or do something that makes a person’s day better, please don’t hesitate.

Patience. Smiles. Laughter. Compassion. Meaningful connections. Touch a life. Show what it means to be a good human.

Not just today. Every day. That’s kindness.

Mockery vs encouragement