Ask almost any person who’s single and they’ll likely tell you they love the idea that their soulmate is out there actively searching the world for them.
But show up in their town as the person doing the searching and the most likely scenario is rejection of the person and the idea. People want the “fairy tale”, but are also quick to reject it.
This is a case where people’s attitudes & beliefs have a direct impact on the outcome of their experience. You can’t have the fairy tale while rejecting it as a possibility at the same time.
It’s good to be careful, but cynicism, pessimism, and baggage often do very little good when it comes to building a better future.
Be careful of keeping yourself from things that you want because your attitude and outlook are not congruent with getting them.