Life is hard. And it isn’t fair. And it really hurts like hell sometimes. But if you focus on what is within your power to change for the better, you can. And you will.

Zero Dean

Author | Photographer | CG Artist | Filmmaker

Tao of Zero: Positive Feedback Folders

Tao of Zero: Positive Feedback Folders

Today we’re going to talk about positive feedback folders.

Have you ever hit a rough patch in life (personally or professionally) where you feel like nothing is going your way?

Perhaps you’ve hit a creative block, are dealing with some kind of rejection, or you’re just having a difficult time connecting with some of the things that are important to you.

And to make matters worse, perhaps you get a bit down on yourself and you start focusing on the negative. Maybe even asking yourself why you even bother.

This is where a positive feedback folder can help.

What is a positive feedback folder?

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Be a candle. Spread some light.

“A thousand candles can be lit by a single candle and yet not diminish the first candle’s light. Happiness (or hope) is never diminished by being shared.” — Buddha

Sometimes the world may seem like a dark place, but there is more good in the world than any of us can possibly imagine.

Negativity gets more press, but there are far more people performing acts of love and kindness in this world than those few who seek to disrupt it.

These countless individuals are beacons of hope who often perform deeds without notice and without any expectation of anything in return, but no act of kindness, no act of bravery, no act of love, no act that instills hope in others is ever wasted.

So let your light shine.

You may never know when you are a beacon of hope or a source of inspiration to others, but it matters.

It always matters.

Be a candle. Spread some light.

With love.

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Be a candle. Spread some light.

It’s amazing what one can accomplish

James Cook said, “Do just once what others say you can’t do, and you will never pay attention to their limitations again.”

And Garfield the Cat said, “It’s amazing what one can accomplish when one doesn’t know what one can’t do.” (memorized from a poster I had on my wall growing up.)

What’s better than both?

People who inspire you and believe in your ability to achieve.

Killing dreams is all too easy. If someone truly has a passion for something, even if you think it’s silly or unattainable, don’t be THAT person who talks others out of their dreams because you gave up on yours.

It costs nothing to encourage people.

Because you never know.

The world was flat before it was round.

Use your free time wisely

Everything you do today influences what you’ll do tomorrow — and over time, your entire life.

Use your free time wisely.

What you do in your free time determines what you’ll be doing when you don’t have a choice.

If you’re not using your free time to direct your life where you want it to go, don’t expect to arrive at your desired destination when the rest of your time is spent being told what to do by other people.

You can’t just wish for what you want to happen — you have to work for it. And that means taking action when you have the time.

If you don’t make the time to work on creating the life you want, you’re eventually going to be forced to spend a lot of time dealing with a life you don’t want.” — Kevin Ngo

Balance in life is important — and taking time to simply relax and enjoy life is vital to maintaining that balance — so this is not to glorify “work”. This is only a reminder that it is important to be mindful of where you want to go in life and to take consistent steps forward if you want to have the pleasure of getting there.

Working towards your goals on a daily basis can be as simple as just reaffirming those goals (both short and long-term).

Since what you do today influences what you do tomorrow anyway, you might as well use the opportunity to influence your tomorrow in as positive & productive way as possible.

Go on, do something today that your future self will thank you for.

If you don’t build your own dream someone else will hire you to help build theirs.” — Tony Gaskins Jr.

Follow-up:

G+ comment: What do you mean when you don’t have a choice?

Zero:

Obviously we all have a choice to do or not do something at any time (although “results/consequences may vary”).

But I mean, we all have things we WANT to do. And we all have things we feel we HAVE to do.

If these two things are not one and the same, then what we do in our “free” time (when we feel we have a CHOICE) can have a drastic impact on those things that take on the “have to do” portions of our lives (those things we feel we don’t have a choice in).

“I have to make money to survive.”

Here’s a real world example:

Teenagers who spend all their free time smoking pot and playing video games will likely find themselves in a much different set of life circumstances (of things they “have to do”) than teenagers who spend their free time being proactive in various areas of their lives (educating themselves, learning new skills…).

Another example:

If someone loves photography, and would love to have a career in photography, but spends all their free time watching TV, then that will have an impact those things in life that they feel they have to do.

If someone loves photography and spends their free time honing their photography skills, then that will lead to a much greater likelihood that what they end up “having” to do is also something they WANT to do.

If you “have” to have a career, then it certainly makes sense to make it something you enjoy doing.

By being proactive and directing your life where you want it to go, you are presented with far more opportunities than if you simply go where life directs you.

Regardless of what society “says”, as independently thinking and acting individuals, we make choices every day that can either fall in line with what society suggests, or fall in line with what we truly want (if the two are not the same).

Look closely at the present you are constructing: it should look like the future you are dreaming.” — Alice Walker

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How to overcome boredom.

This post is a follow-up to: “If you’re bored, you’re boring.

The cause of boredom is often a result of not having a clear idea of what to do or having the motivation to do it.

The key to overcoming boredom is taking action.

Children will often sit in a room with a computer, games, and books, and say, “I’m bored.”

This is not a result of lack of things to do, it’s a result of not having any motivation to take advantage of any of the immediately obvious options. And this is often because it feels as if everything that can be done with the available options has already been done.

  • I’ve already played that game.
  • I’ve already read that book.
  • I’ve already used the computer and visited my favorite web sites.

Anything that you do over and over without reward (such as learning something new) feels repetitive and is no longer challenging. Or if it is challenging — such as in the case of a difficult video game — it is no longer challenging in a “fun” way. It becomes more of a source of frustration — so it is not an option.

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