It is not your job to make people like you

It is not your job to make people like you

It is not your job to make people like you

Anyone can fake being “normal”. Anyone can try to please everyone and turn off no one. Anyone can constantly concern themselves with what other people think of them or how they are perceived. These things are not only incredibly common behaviors, they’re dangerous.

Because – if you’re constantly checking in with regard to what “normal” is or only permitting yourself to do what other people expect of you, you’re not only not being true to yourself, you’re letting your fears dictate your life by acting a certain way in order to earn affection or gain favor.

No matter how much you may want to be liked, pretending to be something you’re not isn’t the answer – because you’re not here to be someone else – you’re here to be you. And – if you are not living your life being the best YOU that you can be, you’re not really living authentically. And you are certainly not living up to your unique potential.

While you may not please everyone who crosses your path in life, one person you can consistently please is yourself – but only if you don’t give in to your fears and sacrifice who you truly are in order to constantly accommodate the expectations of others.

Be the best person that you can be – while being true to yourself – and you will naturally attract people who appreciate you for who you are, not someone you pretend to be.

To pretend to be someone you’re not in order to gain favor or followers is to put yourself on a path that will ultimately let people down – most importantly yourself. It has often been said that the number 1 regret of the dying is that they didn’t have the courage to live a life that was true to who they were because they spent so much of their time concerned with what other people might think.

If you want to live an authentic life, stop worrying so much about being liked. It is not your responsibility to make people like you nor is it your job to conform yourself to other people’s expectations. You are here to be the best YOU that you can be – whether other people like you or not.

Failure is feedback. It is not the end.

Failure is feedback. It is not the end.
Failure is feedback. It is not the end.

Life goes on. And so, too, should you.

There is always another step to take, another dot to connect to, another way to make ourselves valuable.

We don’t always get what we strive for, but we only truly fail when we stop trying to make use of what life gives us.

Originally Published on: Nov 15, 2016

Don’t let what you can’t do stand in the way of what you can do.

Don't let what you can't do stand in the way of what you can do.

Always remember that you may not be able to do everything, but you can always do something.

Whenever you catch yourself focusing on a problem or obstacle (which is discouraging), remember to turn your attention to possible solutions (which is encouraging).

While immediate solutions may not come to mind, you can aid yourself in the process by using the awesome power of asking yourself good questions and letting your subconscious guide you.

Don’t let what you can’t do stand in the way of what you can do.

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Originally Published on: Jul 2, 2013

If you want to reach your full potential

Excerpt from: Likability. Being liked and unliked.

If you want to reach your full potential

If you want to self-actualize (reach your fullest potential), then you must learn to accept yourself for who you are & who you want to be and take personal responsibility for your life and how you feel.

And along the way to self-actualization, you must be prepared to be unpopular. Don’t leave your sense of worth and well-being in the hands of others.

Those who achieve greatness in life don’t let others dictate how they feel about themselves — and neither should you.

Wearing a cape is optional

Wearing a cape is optional

You don’t need superpowers to stand up for what you know is right, maintain your integrity, or be a source of encouragement.

You don’t need superpowers to take the time to truly listen to people, keep your word, or live with honor.

You don’t need superpowers to lead by example or be the change you’d like to see in the world.

And you don’t need superpowers to see that there’s nothing stopping you from doing any of these things.

Wearing a cape is optional.

Originally Published on: Sep 8, 2014

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Be the person you want to be remembered as.

Be the person you want to be remembered as.

“Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become.” — Jim Rohn

Be the person you want to be remembered as.

“When it’s all over, you’re remembered for what you did, not what you said you were going to do.” — Jodi Picoult, Salem Falls

Originally Published on: Nov 16, 2012

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Life isn’t fair

Life isn't fair

No. Life isn’t fair. But how you deal with life being unfair is a choice. You can choose to play a victim and let it weaken you. Or you can choose to be a warrior, learn from it, and let it strengthen you. Because despite the fact that life isn’t fair, every person has the ability to do whatever they can with whatever they have to make something positive of themselves, their lives, and the lives of those around them.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms–to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” — Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

No matter how small what you do may be, every step you make towards a goal is progress, and everything you do to make a positive difference counts. In the words of Vincent Van Gogh, “Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.”

You will be surprised by how much you can do with only a little.

Always remember that you may not be able to do everything, but you can always do something… Don’t let what you can’t do stand in the way of what you can do.”

No matter what life throws your way, no matter how unfair it may seem, refuse to play the victim. Refuse to be ruled by fear, pessimism, and negativity. Refuse to quit. Be a warrior and work through whatever challenges you face in life with courage, love, and positivity. And continually push forward.

Because you are a survivor of the unfairness of life. You are stronger than you think. And you are capable of achieving far more than you believe. Don’t ever give up.

Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but of playing a poor hand well.” — Robert Louis Stevenson

Originally Published on: Nov 30, 2014 @ 09:44

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You may not always know what to do…

You may not always know what to do...

You may not always know what to do, but you can always choose the type of person you want to be.

Originally Published on: Aug 6, 2013 @ 06:54

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Find your own limits

Find your own limits

“You won’t get very far…”
“A person your age…”
“You can expect to feel…”
“Won’t you feel embarrassed…”

Find your own limits. Don’t become a victim of the limits that people place on you. You are not a stereotype or a statistic. You are a unique individual with unlimited potential.

You don’t have to constrain yourself to other people’s expectations. You don’t have to accept life as other people know it. Your life is as unique as you are. And you are as unique as you choose to be.

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” — T.S. Eliot

Originally Published on: Oct 22, 2014 @ 18:08

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