One less idiot

I’m an optimist. I like to see the best in people. I believe human beings are inherently good. I believe people are capable of achieving far more than they believe. I encourage tolerance, kindness, and open minds.

That said, knowing this one simple fact may prove beneficial in getting through life:

Idiots are everywhere.
(And sometimes we are those idiots.)

That probably won’t change.

But what can change is who we are and how we act when we cross paths with idiots. Because, sadly, we often let other idiots turn us into idiots without thinking.

The more we resist the urge to let others control our emotions and our actions in a negative way, the less likely we are to let idiots turn us into idiots (and the happier and more in control of our lives we will be).

Our attitude and how we handle ourselves is always our responsibility.

We may not always know what to do when we cross paths with idiots, but we can always choose the type of person we want to be.

And if you choose not to let an idiot turn you into an idiot, that’s one less idiot there will be in the world.

Never argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.” — Mark Twain

Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.” — George Bernard Shaw

Stop attaching so much weight to being right. In the grand scheme of things, being right is insignificant compared to being happy.” — Deepak Chopra

“Be selective in your battles sometimes peace is better than being right.” — Ritu Ghatourey

One less idiot.

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“I just tell it like it is”

“I just tell it like it is.”

Well, technically, as no two people perceive or experience things in an identical fashion, you tell it like you interpret it.

Perception may be reality — and there may be a great deal of agreement on shared experiences — but every one of our realities is unique.

What one person considers “normal”, another may consider “alarming” or “extraordinary” depending on personal experience, beliefs, education, age, race, gender, sexual orientation, health, fitness level, energy level, timing, intelligence, and, above all, interpretation.

Because we are prone to making mistakes in judgement, what we consider to be “true” based on our senses alone is not a guarantee of accuracy.

This can have a dramatic affect on our lives by allowing us to live according to false and self-limiting beliefs.

As Alfred Korzybski said, “The map is not the territory.

So no, you don’t tell it like it is. You tell it like you interpret it. Sometimes you’re accurate. And sometimes you’re not.

“Experience is not what happens to you – it’s how you interpret what happens to you.” — Aldous Huxley

“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” — Isaac Asimov

An open-mind is a healthy mind.

“Korzybski’s dictum “the map is not the territory” … is used to signify that individual people in fact do not in general have access to absolute knowledge of reality, but in fact only have access to a set of beliefs they have built up over time, about reality. So it is considered important to be aware that people’s beliefs about reality and their awareness of things (the “map”) are not reality itself or everything they could be aware of (“the territory”).” (Wikipedia)

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Accentuate the positive

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Every day you have the power to bring out the best in people simply by sincerely highlighting those things you appreciate about them the most.

Whatever you focus on grows stronger. When you focus on those things you enjoy most about people (and life in general), you not only encourage more of the types of behaviors you like to see in others, you attract more of these types of things into your life.

The same is true when you look for the negative. Not only will you find it, you’ll magnify it.

This is why it’s important to be very deliberate with what you choose to focus on, because it is extremely easy to leapfrog from one negative thing to another until you suddenly find yourself overwhelmed, depressed, or in despair.

This is not to say we should ignore problems — or those traits in others we don’t like — only that when we direct out attention to these things, we remain solution-oriented, not problem focused.

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Originally published on: Feb 7, 2014 @ 15:41
Republished on: Jun 6, 2015 @ 14:41

Happiness. Contentment. Inner peace.

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Happiness.
Contentment.
Inner peace.

Have you ever gone looking for something, only to realize you had it with you the whole time?

It’s like that.

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Hello, this is your inner child calling…

RING! RING!

Hello! This is your inner child calling. Remember me? You’re an adult now and we seem to have parted ways some time ago.

I just wanted to tell you how much I miss being able to act and do things without so much regard to what you imagine others might think. Because, once upon a time, that didn’t matter. Remember?

You forget that the majority of people actually like to see people loving life. Laughing. Playing. Being silly. And as long as they’re not being rude or causing harm, people often admire those who don’t concern themselves so much with what other people think.

Maybe part of the key to being happy doesn’t involve staying disconnected from the part of you that was most familiar with states of true joy & happiness. Maybe it involves being confident and comfortable with your complete self.

Because that person who experienced those states of joy & happiness wasn’t looking for those things. They were those things

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“That doesn’t count.”

“That doesn’t count.”

Sometimes people will try to trivialize your accomplishments in order to feel better about themselves.

Never let someone’s own sense of self-worth interfere with your self-esteem or sense of accomplishment. Because your efforts and achievements in life — no matter how small — count.

Life isn’t a competition. It isn’t about comparing yourself to others. It’s about trying to be better than the person you were yesterday.

While we may cross paths, the route each of us takes through life is unique. And a step forward is a step forward, regardless of how small your stride is or how long is takes you to get somewhere.

So go slow if you must. And make mistakes — as everyone does — and learn from them.

Just keep going and don’t let others — or their achievements — get you down.

And remember, no two people are on the same journey through life.

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Who is in charge?

Who is in charge?

Who is in charge of your life, your health, your fitness, your education, and your voice in the world?

YOU ARE.

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Level of difficulty

Every time you say something is hard or difficult for you, you reinforce in your mind how difficult it is, and you actually make it harder and more difficult (according to your belief) than it needs to be.

The fact is, most things we do are difficult before they get easier. Everything from walking to talking to writing or typing was difficult at one point.

Rather than focus on how difficult something is, always focus on your progress and how far you’ve come, not on how far you have to go.

Because no matter how slow you go, as long as you are consistent in your efforts (and you are biologically capable), you will achieve what it is you set out to accomplish.

And what you once considered difficult, no longer will be.

But only if you get started and only if you don’t give up.

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