Achieving personal goals: Be patient and disciplined

Achieving personal goals: patient and disciplined

Be patient. Think long term and stop seeking immediate gratification or shortcuts. Small changes add up to big changes over time. Strive for progress, not perfection.

What you want MOST is often far more important than what you want NOW — especially after the moment of desire passes. Repeatedly exercising your control over the urges or bad habits that are working against you helps provide you with a certain mental toughness. Over time, things you used to think were difficult become much easier.

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Achieving personal goals: Comparison is the thief of joy

Achieving personal goals: Comparison is the thief of joy

We are often unaware of the struggles that others must face in order to achieve success. As Lee Honda put it, “Success is 99% failure.”

Know that whatever it is you wish to accomplish, no two people, businesses, or ventures are exactly the same. You can’t help but bring a unique perspective to your endeavors and a unique combination of talents and skills.

So even if the field is crowded, understand that you can succeed, too, but in order to do so, it is essential that you put in the effort and take action to achieve your goals.

Getting discouraged at others’ accomplishments and giving up because you feel you can’t compete gets you nowhere.

Constantly comparing yourself to others is waste of energy. There will always be someone better at something than you are.

A wise person once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Don’t let the success of others discourage you from your own endeavors or make you bitter. If someone has done or is doing something you would like to do, let it inspire you and be an indicator that you, too, can achieve great things.

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Achieving personal goals: Focus on the positive

Achieving personal goals: Focus on the positive

How you see the world is largely a matter of what you focus on.

What kind of world do you want to live in? Do you want to live in a world that is hostile and dangerous, or one that is friendly and warm?

To see more of what you want in life, remember to focus on what you want to see rather than on what you don’t want or don’t see. Look for and focus on those things that you can like and appreciate in others, not on what you don’t like.

You will find the world to be a much friendlier place by being positive — and discussing what you like — than by being negative and complaining about what you don’t like.

We find what we seek. By remembering this at times when you might otherwise find yourself being negative, your attention on the positive will attract more of what you are looking for in life.

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Achieving personal goals: Work for results

Achieving personal goals: Work for results

Getting ResultsGetting Results.

When you don’t get results:
Try something else.

If you don’t get the results you want:
Try something else.

And if you stop getting results:
Try something else.

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Achieving personal goals: No excuses!

Achieving personal goals: No excuses!

Everyone has weaknesses and limitations. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone faces failure and unfairness in life at one time or another. You are not alone. By focusing on your strengths and making the most of what you DO have, you can do great things. What are the things keeping you from achieving your goal? Are they truly things you cannot work around if you truly wanted to? No one is going to hand you your results. You have to work for them. Be stronger than your excuses.

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Achieving personal goals: Focus on what you CAN do

Achieving personal goals: Focus on what you CAN do

There are always things you can’t do. But there are always things that you CAN.

There are always things beyond your control. But there are always things within it.

You’re never as stuck as you think you are.

Anyone who ever accomplished anything had limitations. If you truly want something, you’ll find a way.

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Achieving personal goals: Take personal responsibility

Achieving personal goals: Take personal responsibility

Don’t play a victim. Free yourself of trying to present yourself as perfect to others. Life can be very hard at times and everyone faces hardship at one time or another in life. And everyone makes mistakes and has setbacks. You are not alone. Take responsibility for your life — your “situation” — and take action to change it (if that’s what you desire).

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Achieving personal goals: Make a commitment to yourself

Achieving personal goals: Make a commitment to yourself

Make a commitment to yourself to make what you want happen. And then make a plan on what you are going to do to achieve your goal.

Understand your “triggers” and where and why you have failed in the past. Find an alternative positive action that you can take to avoid falling into the same traps.

Then take action, be consistent, persistent and determined and follow through with your commitment.

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Achieving personal goals: Visualize your results

Fuel your desire by visualizing your results.

“The starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat.”  — Napoleon Hill

If you can’t picture the results you want in vivid detail, then there’s a good chance that:

1. You don’t have a well enough defined goal or
2. You don’t truly believe it’s possible.

The answer to 1. is easy — keep refining your goal until you can vividly picture what you want. If you have to, break it down into smaller steps.

The answer to 2. may have to do with the fact that what you want isn’t congruent with something about you.

Contrary to the saying, “You can do anything you set your mind to” — NO YOU CAN’T.

Some people would call this “being realistic” — but I agree with Will Smith who says, “Being realistic is the most common path to mediocrity.

I think lofty goals that some people might think you are crazy for believing you can achieve are worth aiming for — because I think people are capable of achieving far more than they believe.

But there are some limitations — mainly, you cannot control things that are beyond your control.

Yes, you can learn to play the piano — perhaps sensationally, but you can’t turn back time and learn the piano when you were three years old and take that experience with you through your life.

Yes, you can learn to sing better, but you cannot entirely change the essence of your voice to sound exactly like someone else.

Yes, you can improve your fitness and dramatically change your body composition, but you cannot change your bone structure or will your body to grow a foot taller.

However…

You can always maximize what you already have to improve your health, habits, and skills. You can always find ways to better yourself. And by doing so, you can get results that others might not even believe were possible. But to do this, you have to have a very clear idea of exactly what it is you want to accomplish.

And when you know what you want to accomplish, then vividly imagine the changes you would like to see and how you will feel when you’ve reached your goal.

And don’t just do this once, do it often! What you imagine should inspire you. Use that as fuel and motivation to propel you towards your goal.

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Achieving personal goals: Do it for YOU.

Achieving personal goals: Do it for YOU.

Know why you want something and make sure you want it for the right reasons. If you’re doing things to try to impress or elicit a change in others, then you’re putting your efforts into getting results that are ultimately beyond your control. You can’t change other people.

While your actions may influence or even inspire others, you can’t make people do anything. And while you may achieve goals that make you more appealing to some, you can’t make people like you. You can only set a good example for others to follow or be attracted to.

If you’re going to do something, do it for the changes it leads to in you — and to a larger degree, your life.

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