Help create a perpetual kindness machine…

Help create a perpetual kindness machine...

Help create a perpetual kindness machine by actively helping to support and encourage those who help support and encourage others.

I think we sometimes forget that the little things we do — that don’t seem like much or take much effort — can make a big difference in other people’s lives.

This is what I meant when I said:

Never underestimate the power of a single act of kindness to make a significant difference in someone’s life. Your act may just be the added lift that someone needs to go from falling to flying.”

Here are some of those simple things:

  • Looking someone in the eye when you say “Thank you.” and sincerely meaning it.
  • Saying “You’re welcome” to others — clearly — and with meaning.
  • Artists, writers, and creative-types who create content are almost always “starving artists”. Helping to bring a greater awareness to their work is one of the kindest things you can do. Social media makes this easy. Even a single “like” to an artist’s page can be encouraging.

Regarding your sources of online entertainment and education:

Providing feedback to these places is HUGE.

Sending a short “thank you” email or positive feedback to web sites (yes, even BIG ones — but especially little ones) or people who help make your online experience more enjoyable is extremely encouraging. While likes and +1s and shares are awesome — actually sending written positive feedback expressing why you like what you like is extremely valuable to those who create original content.

* And any time you happen to be on the receiving end of positive feedback, save it and refer to it later! This is what positive feedback folders are for!

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You don’t need anyone’s approval to genuinely like what you like.

Music, movies, books, tv, fashion, art, animals, people, even Facebook statuses — whatever it may be — you don’t need anyone’s approval to genuinely like what you like.

Music, movies, books, tv, fashion, art, animals, people, even Facebook statuses — whatever it may be — you don’t need anyone’s approval to genuinely like what you like.

As long as it’s not causing harm to yourself or others in some way, don’t let anyone make you feel like there is anything wrong with your personal preferences. Just because someone else may not like what you like, doesn’t make it any less worthy of your affection.

In fact, history shows us that just because something is popular doesn’t mean that it’s any better than something that may be lesser known.

Some people (or products) just get lucky. Others have millions of marketing dollars backing them to reach the tipping point that creates a sense of desire in the masses.

Some of the best and most amazing things in the world won’t be recognized by “the crowd” until years after they were created. And some things may never be recognized by the crowd.

When someone judges you for what you like, realize that it says more about them than it says about you. Being yourself means being unapologetically affectionate about the things you like, regardless of what others may think.

So go ahead and like what you like. And stand by it proudly. It means you’re being true to yourself and not falling victim to crowd mentality.

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Setting the table of your life.

“Emptiness which is conceptually liable to be mistaken for sheer nothingness is, in fact, the reservoir of infinite possibilities.” — D.T. Suzuki

Aristotle once said, “Nature abhors a vacuum.” I’d like to suggest that human nature does, too.

Isn’t it true that whenever many of us see an absence of something in our personal environment or our lives — and we have the means to fill it — we often do so reflexively?

We just see a space and decide that something needs to be there.

“That table needs a plant.” “That room needs a rug.” “That wall needs a picture.”

Not only are our outer environments filling up with more and more of the sort of “stuff” that we don’t necessarily need, our inner environments are, too.

How often — when we find ourselves without something we want in life — do we automatically (and perhaps unconsciously) fill that “void” with a sense of “lack” or “negativity”?

And sometimes that negativity manifests itself as a bad habit or a reflexive negative thought process? (At least until you’ve retrained your brain)

Have you ever witnessed or experienced something along the lines of:

“I didn’t get what I wanted! That stinks! I never get what I want — and this is just more proof of that.”

Or…

“I didn’t get what I wanted — or what I wanted didn’t happen — so it doesn’t matter what I do! I might as well just [ insert some potentially harmful or high-risk activity ]!”

Our tendency to do and think things like this has the potential to make things worse by not creating (or allowing) the type of environment where the kinds of things we want in our lives feel “welcome” (or are attracted enough) to appear.

For example, if you’ve been single for a while, you may begin to lose hope that you’ll ever find the person you’re searching for (or that they’ll find you). So perhaps you get a little bitter or it makes you sad when you see other couples together. Or maybe just frustrated.

However these negative thoughts & feelings manifest themselves in your life, it not only doesn’t solve your “problem”, it doesn’t project the kind of message that makes you attractive to whatever it is you strive for.

It’s almost like we react to things in a way that puts a sign over our head that says: “Sad, bitter, and frustrated person here! Do not approach!”

When, instead, the message we most likely want to convey with our being is: “Kind and loving individual ready for love! Welcome!”

As such, it’s important to make sure that whatever message you are projecting to the world is congruent with the message you wish to express.

If you want more positive things in your life — losing hope that you’ll ever get them and becoming bitter or negative is self-defeating. Rather than leave yourself open to infinite possibilities, filling this formerly “available space” with negativity makes it much more difficult for something positive to come along and take up residency.

Perhaps it’s time to take inventory in your life.

Are you holding onto tired old thoughts or negative feelings that are keeping other positive thoughts, feelings, and possibilities from feeling welcome?

This is old baggage and you don’t need it.

Holding onto baggage any longer than is necessary for you to “process” and learn from it means that it’s simply sitting there taking up the space that positive stuff might if it had the room.

The moment you begin to ditch the negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions in your life is the moment you begin to leave room for positive ones.

Perhaps it helps if you think of it as setting the table of your life:

Imagine you’re sitting at the head of a large table. Nearly all of the chairs are filled. You have some great “guests” — whom you adore. And this is exactly what you want!

But you’ve also got a few that you just sort of found back when you had a lot of empty seats — and so you figured it’d be better to fill your seats than leave them vacant. And now these guests just sit there at your table — gloomy and depressed.

And every now and then one of them does or says something that is completely counter to the mood and environment that you’re trying to create.

No one really wants to associate with these guests. And no one who’s sitting at your table really knows why they are there. But they’re your guests — and it’s easy enough to ignore them most of the time — so no one says anything.

You don’t particularly like these negative guests, but since you’ve always had a few empty seats, you’ve never thought about asking them to leave because who wants to have a “party” with only a few guests and a lot of empty seats.

You’d love to fill these empty seats with more of the types of guests you adore, but it becomes clear that no one else wants to join you at your table because your unwelcome guests are creating an unattractive atmosphere.

So how do you solve this problem?

Well, as Robert Tew says, “Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.”

Keep the guests you adore, but give your unwelcome guests the boot.

Retire your tired old thoughts and feelings. “Reset your table” and then resist the urge to fill the empty spaces.

In time, with your positive guests in place and your negative guests gone,  the magnetic nature of the empty seats — and your refreshed attitude — will naturally attract more of the types guests you want in your life.

In other words:

Create an environment in yourself and your life where good things feel welcome, and good things will come.

“In many a piece of music, it’s the pause or the rest that gives the piece its beauty and its shape. And I know I, as a writer, will often try to include a lot of empty space on the page so that the reader can complete my thoughts and sentences and so that her imagination has room to breathe.” — Pico Iyer

“Become totally empty. Quiet the restlessness of the mind. Only then will you witness everything unfolding from emptiness.” –Lao Tzu

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” — Rumi

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It’s not too late to make a conscious decision to improve…

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It’s not too late to make a conscious decision to improve your health, body, and mind.

You — and you alone — have a tremendous amount of power over positive changes you can make to your physical and mental well-being. All it takes is a conscious decision to make a change and the determined effort to make it happen.

You want to be healthier, look better, feel better, think more clearly?

Don’t just think about it.

Make it happen.

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Your voice is a choice. Always.

It is sometimes important to remember that we are not only responsible for what we say when we speak, we are also responsible for how we say it.

The volume at which one says things and the tone in which they say them are always controlled by the individual.

Your voice is always a choice.

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It is not until we the take the time to question who we are…

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It is not until we take the time to question who we are, what we know, and how we know what we know that we begin to truly find ourselves. And it isn't until we've deliberately distinguished ourselves from our influences that our genuine self is revealed.

It is not until we the take the time to question who we are, what we know, and how we know what we know that we begin to truly find ourselves. And it isn’t until we’ve deliberately distinguished ourselves from our influences that our genuine self is revealed.

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